FLAPPY VIRGE

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See, that’s what the app is perfect for.

Sounds perfect Wahhhh, I don’t wanna
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orhideintheclosets

to any 13-15 year olds following me, i mean this genuinely, you are a child.

i know right now you might feel like you know everything and that you’re too smart to let anything bad happen to you, but please keep yourselves safe. there’s bad people on the internet and i don’t say that to be a buzzkill grownup, i say it because i learnt it the hard way.

use your block button liberally, you don’t need to justify blocking people/tags that make you uncomfortable. you don’t have to entertain conversations and interactions with grown adults.

you are children. you’re still growing up. make your experience safe for you. adults know what they’re doing. please stay safe on the internet.

Source: orhideintheclosets
leg-stealing-bee
lnfini

white lgbt ppl dont know how much trouble theyve caused for us -_-

lnfini

white lgbt ppl will constantly have to be informed about racism and nonwhite issues bc they're only ever friends w other white people, speak over lgbt ppl of color when it comes to representation and problems in media, not acknowledge when white supremacy feeds into intracommunity bigotry. and then say things like "the lgbt community shouldn't be at odds with each other! 😤" i don't know if you guys know how big a split there is between you and us at the best of times

lnfini

white gays can reblog this if u can keep ur mouth shut

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fangirltothefullest
helperhoopoe

remember to cry for help without guilt-tripping. i know it feels like you’ve been abandoned and betrayed, but it’s probably not true, and it’s not okay to accuse the people around you of something they might not have done.

“i guess none of you like me” could be better phrased as “i feel unloved right now”

“but nobody cares anyway” could be better phrased as “i feel insignificant and i need reassurance”

rather than assuming others’ feelings, give them time to explain them. you’ll usually get a much better answer.

randomslasher

This is really important for future predictions, too. “You’re eventually going to leave me” is impossible for someone else to disprove without just sticking around forever, but no one wants to stick around when they’re being constantly accused of future abandonment. Giving someone no choice but to either stay with you forever in order to prove you wrong or leave you and prove you right is incredibly emotionally manipulative, whether you mean it to be or not.

“I get scared sometimes because I’m afraid of being alone again” is easier to address and doesn’t leave your partner(s)/friend(s) feeling as though they’re being preemptively accused of something.  

toastheaven

these are called I Statements arnd are super healthy to focus on for general communication! Any time you feel the urge to call out others, say “you xyz”, try to think of a way to make it an I sttement instead. You cant control the actions and feelings of others; focus on properly communicating how YOU feel in a constructive manner and you’ll get a much more accurate read on reality, which will help support and ground you towards better decision making and engagements with others.

im-the-punk-who

Sort of tangential to this, but it’s also important to focus on ‘I’ statements and emotional impact statements when offering support as when we’re seeking it.

“The other people who left you were wrong” is less helpful to someone suffering from abandonment than something like “what can I do to make you feel more secure in our relationship”

As above with I statements when you’re seeking support, when you’re trying to give support it’s just as important to focus on things you can actually offer and control in the moment, rather than a presumption of the actions of others (including the person you’re attempting to support.)

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mockiatoh

You can’t deserve a person’s love. You’ll drive yourself crazy thinking like that. They either love you, or they don’t. That doesn’t mean you weren’t good enough for them to love you, because love isn’t something you earn by being good enough. It isn’t something that can be quantified or doled out. Don’t blame yourself for not being loved how you need to, just teach yourself how to look for love where love lives.

mockiatoh

This isn’t just about romantic love, or even skewed towards romantic love, although it does apply there too. One of the hardest things I’ve ever had to accept is that my mother simply wasn’t someone who was capable of loving me, and there is no version of me that I could have ever been that would have earned that love. But with acceptance came healing. I was able to love myself more instead of resenting myself for not being more than any one person could be.

mockiatoh

Are you listening? Even love for yourself isn’t earned. It is a kindness you give yourself.

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